Facebook Friends

PM meOne of my team sent me this PM a few days ago

I get a couple of friend requests every day but they are all from **** and **** and obviously if they are in already I don’t want to spend my time just making small talk. I also have people message me and ask me to add them but I don’t. I figure if they want to friend me then they should just add me”

There are two issues here and I am going to address them both.

What is the point of connecting with people who are already in your business?
1. You can help grow your business by supporting each other. Contact them and suggest that you comment and like on each others posts. This raises interest in your business and gets people talking.
2. You never know what your next business is going to be. If you have made good relationships with the people in your current business then they are more likely to look at a business with you or indeed you with them. I joined two businesses with friends this year that are working very well for me. I recently joined another business with a new friend that I had built great rapport with. This business will be life changing for me, so I am grateful for that friendship.

Relationships are a two way process and each should provide value to the other.

3. You can learn from others. Everyone knows something that you do not know which may just make the difference to your success.

Why do we PM people before adding them?
You want to know if you are going to get along with someone before you become their friend.  I personally enjoy talking with engaging people, action takers, people with humour and that are capable of two-way conversation.
Let me give you an example:-

Me: Hi Joe, I looked at your profile and see that we are both in the same business.
Joe: Yeah
Me: How’s it going for you?
Joe: OK
Me: How long have you been doing it?
Joe: Can’t remember. Why you asking?

At this point, I am sticking pins in my eyes. I WOULD NOT add this person.

Let’s try another scenario
Me: Hi Gaynor, I looked at your profile and see that you have dogs. I love the photo today on your timeline
Gaynor: Hi Jan! Thanks. I love dogs and that is Goober. He is a total dope but I love him
Me: LOL I have one just like that, reminds me of Goofy the Disney character
Gaynor: Lol yes I can relate to that. Goober is always in trouble. I see you have dogs to. I love the spotty dog you have, she looks so pretty. {Shows she has taken the time to look at my timeline}
Me: Yes that’s Pepper. She is gorgeous. She came from Spain
Gaynor: You are in the UK right? {She is still checking me out}
Me: Yes
Gaynor: How lovely, we once came to the UK and visited Yorkshire where I have some friends
Me: Yorkshire is FAB. We seem to have a lot in common Gaynor, would you like to connect
Gaynor: Yes that would be great, I love to talk with like-minded people
Me: Brilliant. I am just off out now but will send you a request and speak later
Gaynor: I look forward to your posts Jan

Qualify your friends. Don’t just randomly add them. Create a relationship before you bring them into your life.

… Positive Mentoring by Jan …

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