Friend Requests

facebook imageWhen I get a friend request, I consider several things before I hit confirm:-

1. Have we interacted in a group or on another friends posts …………
If we have been on a thread together before and posted, we will see that maybe we have similar mindsets or opinions. We may have laughed together already.

2. Have we spoken by PM to see if we get along ………
A lot of people don’t do this but it is good practice to ask someone first before you add them. The response you get back could determine if you are going to get along or not.

3. I look at your timeline………..
If your timeline is all photos of cash or links to your business, we won’t get along. I like to connect with people who provide value. That value may be things that help others, photos or quotes that touch me or make me smile or laugh, pictures of you having fun, your family, your animals and your life. I want to see that you are a real person, not just fixated on hitting up for business.

The other thing I look for on timelines is whether you have responded to people who have posted on your wall thanking you for connecting. If you haven’t…… rude…… it’s not going to work for you and me. I am a communicator and like to have mutually rewarding and respectful connections. If I say hi to you and you don’t say hi back, where is that relationship going do you think?

Think of Facebook as a new club where you have come to find like-minded people. You really do not want to be associated with all and sundry. Choose your friends carefully. Look for mentors, people you aspire to and can learn from. Find people already in your business and check that they are providing value on their timeline. Novice Facebook marketers worry about being in competition with people in their business but that is a narrow-minded way of looking at it. This can be a powerful move to find people who are open to working with you on some Facebook strategies to raise your profile. I will be writing more on these sorts of  Facebook strategies at another time.

These are not rules but they are strategies that are working extremely well for me. I value my time and my energy so I choose my friends carefully. Surround yourself with positive, open-minded helpful people and you will be astounded at what a difference that can make to your interactions on Facebook and also with your business.

… Positive Mentoring by Jan …

Provide Value

Eric Morecombe provided great value

Eric Morecambe provided great value

Experts say that you need to provide value in order for people to be drawn to you online. Seriously, I never got that. What value? What did it look like? How could I get it and how do I give it? I never knew what they were talking about. They winked when they said it, like some shady psychic who tells you about the lottery win or the tall, dark handsome stranger coming into your life.

I am far from dim but I couldn’t work it out. Then someone said to me that people wanted to see value on my wall. Eh? Do I post special offers from the supermarket, you know, saving people money?

Ha ha, I jest…… or do I?

Come on Jan do spill!

Oh alright then, I am going to share this  ‘secret‘ with you because I understand it now.  Yay!  Don’t I feel clever and not dancing around the room at all.

In our industry, the failure rate is dismal. People just don’t know how to ‘do it‘  Standing like deer in the headlights they watch the gurus, believing that they are elevated beings with the unattainable, magical gift to create cult like followers. But here it is, they are just like you…  they just know something that you don’t know yet, that’s all.

If I tell you this secret, will you must promise me, with hand on heart, that you will take this information and apply it?

So, here’s the thing. People want to know HOW to succeed in direct selling. They crave to know what to do, when and how to do it. So, if you share a formula with them then you are providing that magical, mystical thing called value, all without the use of fairy dust.

Help others in any way in this industry and you ARE providing value.

By the way, don’t use the excuse that you don’t have value to share. Spend the time learning how. That is how we all did it. Follow the elite marketers and model their moves. Providing value will not only help others but it will also transcend your own business.

… Positive Mentoring by Jan …


Facebook Friends

PM meOne of my team sent me this PM a few days ago

I get a couple of friend requests every day but they are all from **** and **** and obviously if they are in already I don’t want to spend my time just making small talk. I also have people message me and ask me to add them but I don’t. I figure if they want to friend me then they should just add me”

There are two issues here and I am going to address them both.

What is the point of connecting with people who are already in your business?
1. You can help grow your business by supporting each other. Contact them and suggest that you comment and like on each others posts. This raises interest in your business and gets people talking.
2. You never know what your next business is going to be. If you have made good relationships with the people in your current business then they are more likely to look at a business with you or indeed you with them. I joined two businesses with friends this year that are working very well for me. I recently joined another business with a new friend that I had built great rapport with. This business will be life changing for me, so I am grateful for that friendship.

Relationships are a two way process and each should provide value to the other.

3. You can learn from others. Everyone knows something that you do not know which may just make the difference to your success.

Why do we PM people before adding them?
You want to know if you are going to get along with someone before you become their friend.  I personally enjoy talking with engaging people, action takers, people with humour and that are capable of two-way conversation.
Let me give you an example:-

Me: Hi Joe, I looked at your profile and see that we are both in the same business.
Joe: Yeah
Me: How’s it going for you?
Joe: OK
Me: How long have you been doing it?
Joe: Can’t remember. Why you asking?

At this point, I am sticking pins in my eyes. I WOULD NOT add this person.

Let’s try another scenario
Me: Hi Gaynor, I looked at your profile and see that you have dogs. I love the photo today on your timeline
Gaynor: Hi Jan! Thanks. I love dogs and that is Goober. He is a total dope but I love him
Me: LOL I have one just like that, reminds me of Goofy the Disney character
Gaynor: Lol yes I can relate to that. Goober is always in trouble. I see you have dogs to. I love the spotty dog you have, she looks so pretty. {Shows she has taken the time to look at my timeline}
Me: Yes that’s Pepper. She is gorgeous. She came from Spain
Gaynor: You are in the UK right? {She is still checking me out}
Me: Yes
Gaynor: How lovely, we once came to the UK and visited Yorkshire where I have some friends
Me: Yorkshire is FAB. We seem to have a lot in common Gaynor, would you like to connect
Gaynor: Yes that would be great, I love to talk with like-minded people
Me: Brilliant. I am just off out now but will send you a request and speak later
Gaynor: I look forward to your posts Jan

Qualify your friends. Don’t just randomly add them. Create a relationship before you bring them into your life.

… Positive Mentoring by Jan …